I have to say women are sometimes prone to saying stupid things like:
"Karen, what do you think of Jane's new hat, isn't it wonderful?"
You think it looks hideous. But you don't want Jane to hate you forever.
The *perfect* answer?
"It suits her!" [said with enthusiasm.]
You're not lying, because you think Jane deserves a hat uglier than mortal sin.
A long time ago, I knew a young musician working on his master's degree. The musician had excellent taste. Some of his professors were into the kind of "music" which consisted of random noise from tire chains, thrown trash cans and the sound of dental drilling. He was often invited to these "concerts. "
His stock statement in backstage chatter after a performance was to shake the professor's hand and say "Your performance tonight was even more astonishing than the last. You've outdone yourself."
They never caught on.